I wish that damned book Fifty Shades of Grey hadn't come out and tarnished the shades of grey concept - the idea that things aren't black and white, that they can sometimes be complex and confusing, that cause (especially blame) isn't always clear, that many problems have many solutions and some of those solutions might work, or all of them might, or none.
I have friends and colleagues who are very black and white about things I find confusing. I envy them but then I wonder: is it me that's stupid because I can't see the situation as clearly as they do, or is it them? I envy them but then I wonder: perhaps it's not stupidity on their part, maybe it's just a preference for action, or is it blind self-confidence? Perhaps they're faking it, hoping they'll make it; perhaps not. Maybe it matters, maybe not.
I had friends, a couple, who were black and white about everything, especially about the quality of their relationship. They got married. They had a very expensive wedding. It didn't last. The shades of grey snuck out over time.
I'm not sure what to type next.
Doubt and self-doubt can be a weakness, when it leads to paralysis. It can also be a strength, when it leads to curiosity, and exploration of options, and (eventually) action. It's important to deliberately choose to search for the shades of grey but don't stop once you have found them. Searching for alternatives, use doubt as a strength, then use those alternatives as fuel. If you only find two colours - black and white - you're limiting yourself.
I don't know how to end this. So I'll stop now.